Effects of Sexual Abuse & Women's Lib

I realize I haven't been posting on a regular basis, so I do apologize to you for that. 

I would like to move on beyond the effects of sexual abuse in a woman and the effect of the women's liberation movement especially in Christian women. However there are some very simple things I wish to share and I want to say it as short and sweet as possible, before moving on to some other heart felt, passionate 'postings' I have swirling around on the inside of me.

The negative effects of sexual abuse are because someone in authority did not protect, honor, and keep her but victimized the woman.  Victimized her soul, spirit and body; stole her innocence, her purity, and left her demoralized, insecure, shamed, her sexual being totally confused, not sure whether to give it away or be an iceberg...  And from that point of being defrauded, her trust has been stolen, injured, and scarred, and she can no longer trust authority but only rebels against it.
It's the opposite with women's lib.  You are taught to come against authority, question authority, make waves, and show yourself strong in the face of adversity, because you can be anything you want to be...  However wrong that may be.

There are basically two types of expressed rebellion - 'in your face' or the 'lipservice kind' amongst the female species.  I was 'in your face', however the vast majority of women do the lipservice kind.  Not saying the 'lipservice kind' won't be brazen at times, but will generally do the lipservice so as to not deal with direct confrontation and risk more abuse, rejection and injury...  The lipservice kind, in my opinion is far more dangerous because the woman uses deception, manlipulation and can lie to insurrect her premeditated mutiny against the authority figure.  That to me is quiet, sneeky, and definitely dangerous.

Let's get this gal married with all this baggage so I can show you in real time some fruit.  Every time her husband tells her about a decision he's made or going to make that she doesn't like, she'll tell him about it or connive her plan.  Remember the contentious woman in Proverbs...drip, drip, drip.  That type of strategy works because the husband finally gives in because he just doesn't want to hear it any more and wants her to shut up and go away.  The lipservice gal makes her plan and begins to chip away at the monument before her, until it remains no more and her decision gets the victory.
And if the husband makes mistakes[which he will, most assuredly] in making a decision that didn't include her awesome and much needed wisdom and doesn't work out, she may start viewing him as a weak leader and can no longer trust his decisions.  Only her's vast decision making and leadership prevails...because she trust in no one but herself.  The mistrust in his decision making grows deep and wide through out time in their day to day marriage life and vows.  He will ultimately discern her mistrust for him as a competent leader and discover the major fracture in their marriage and won't know how to regain her confidence in him.  If children are present, they get the whole picture and they too won't trust daddy any more.  Even if you didn't have a family round table discussion about daddy's current, major, earth moving decision, they saw, heard and know.
About a year or even two ago I was mediating on Ephesians 5:22 Wives, be subject (be submissive and adapt yourselves) to your own husbands as[a service] to the Lord.  from the Amplified bible.  Or New King James - Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.  And of course the big word submit was what I was really chewing on.  In Websters submit means:  cease resistance; yield.  Of course the definition of submit sliced and diced my soul and spirit as I reflected on a current scenario of my non-submission with my husband, where he told me to shut up and sit down.  I was instantly irate and enraged but the fear of God was greater as I sat there silently speaking in tongues to my Lord, pleading for mercy that the rebuke wouldn't take longer than 45 minutes.  I woke up one morning wondering whether my fellow sisters in the Lord could handle their husbands telling them to shut up.  I immediately set out to ask that simple question as I e-mailed a handful of women of God.  I already knew Joyce Meyers husband has told her to shut up and sit down more than once, but I was curious if I personally knew another woman of God besides myself who could endure such hardship.  The question was, 'Can your husband tell you to shut up?'  I had one response and it was[as I interpreted it]how dare he, he has no need too and no right to.  See, what I'm saying about in your face and the silent but deadly ones.  However, the question was can he, not does he.

There is much more that I have understood about the effects of sexual abuse and the women's lib movement that has consumed itself in Christianity, but I did try to make it short and sweet.  So, all you sisters who want to please their real husband, Jesus, next time the Holy Spirit pricks your spirit when you've said or done something call out to Him, repent and go deeper.

Much love to you all.  Merry Christmas 2012