The Big "C"

What really is compromise? The way I see it there are two types of compromise; the right one and the wrong one (that leads to great problems).

The right one is in marriage, or in a business partnership, working as a team member, or in a friendship (that one is iffy; iffy being depending on the ‘what’).

The wrong one is when you compromise truth for someone’s approval, or fear of losing a job, a friend, anything… If you are a true Christian and you compromise the Word of God for any of the above it will be like the ‘little foxes that spoiled the vine’ and will eventually take you right out of relationship with God. The great possibility of it all is, you won’t even know it.

Compromise in Webster’s says: to come to agreement by mutual concession; to bind by mutual agreement; a settlement of differences by arbitration or by consent reached by mutual concessions; to make a shameful or disreputable concession.

One thing I noticed in this definition is the word agreement is used twice and mutual concessions is three times.
Agree: to concur in, admit, concede – means to be in harmony; to consent to as a course of action; to be similar; to accept or concede something; agree implies complete accord usually attained by discussion and adjustment of differences.
Mutual: having the same feelings for one another; shared in common; joint

How can a Christian compromise what they know is right and still believe everything is okay or to know to do right and don’t?

We are living in a fearful and wonderful time, in God. However, the road is narrow and seems to be tightening up even more. There is so much false teaching or doctrine out there; Christians don’t know the Word of God just some bible study through someone else or the Church is playing a DVD of someone preaching/teaching…but they know not the Word for themselves.


Not too long ago I was in a small group and the leader confessed before all that she had a very difficult day at work. She sat in her chair, looked upset and shook her head from side to side as she said, “I didn’t know what to do. I didn’t know what to do.” She further explained that she was assigned two lesbians, as their family counselor. That’s why she said she didn’t know what to do, however she counseled them as a couple so they may have peace and harmony in their relationship as woman-to-woman. Then she said she called someone even higher on the religious food chain, who comforted her and told her she did the best she could and not to worry about it. I sat in amazement as to how any so-called Christian could say that, let alone a leader validates her. I was in a state of shock as I watched this young woman and looked at every person's facial expression that was in that room.
Early in the following week I met with my pastor about an event I was working on and at the end of the meeting I discussed what had happened at the small group. When I finished with what the woman had said, he explained that she was weak, that he had not promoted compromising like that and would talk to her. I asked him if he would wait until I had met with her about it, and he replied he would. I finally reached her and set up a lunch date. I saturated this meeting in prayer and mental discipline.
When we met she no longer looked confused, but rather cheerful. We ordered our food, chose a table and sat down. The conversation started out with the usual social rhetoric, but as the time was quickly gaining on her lunch break, I began to talk about what she had said during the small group and asked her how she could think it was okay. She explained that she had left a deposit of silent prayer and being an example as a Christian. I was dumbfounded at first; unable to see what truly had happened.
I began to share a similar testimony when I was a single parent and my job was threatened unless I compromised. She listened, but as I observed her facial expressions of ‘nice story, but I left a deposit’, I soon came to the realization that my pastor had validated her and assured her she did well.
That same week I and my husband met again with my pastor to discuss our son and as with the previous meeting she was discussed. He admitted he broke his promise to wait until I had met with her. He too compromised and told her it was okay to do that because it would have cost her job. And then proceeded to ask the both of us to continue going to the small group and sit under her leadership. There was no way my husband and I could do that being ordained ministers and having our own ministry. First of all this young woman had little spiritual maturity, she compromised and I couldn’t be under some leader who did that and believed she did right. If she would have repented, yes. When our pastor saw we would not budge, he asked us to sit under someone else and said that he wanted me to head a small group in January, three months away. We declined and was accused of being rebellious because we wouldn’t submit to his desire to sit under someone who compromised. At that point we realized that compromise was in the head, not just in the underlings of leadership. The opportunity to have a small group or organize a large community event was no carrot for me.
We went home, began to pray and later left the church.


I was asked to compromise on the job when I was a single parent. I worked on a locked psychiatric ward and was led by the Holy Spirit to witness to 2 patients. The head nurse asked me one day to come into his office. He told me that I couldn’t do that and if I continued he would get me fired. I knew the man, and I leaned forward in my chair and said, “John, you gotta do what you gotta do and I gotta do what I gotta do. So go ahead and try to fire me if you think that’s what you have to do.”
I met those patients on my lunch break in the hospitals chapel and I was never fired or counseled by my immediate supervisor. I didn’t care any how. God got me that job – I figured He’d get me another one. I was in the same situation as the woman above and didn’t compromise. Besides I didn’t have child support, parents and siblings who were Christians to help support me mentally or physically; like she did. I just knew my Jesus would take care of me and my son, because He is my vital need and provision, not a job.

To those of you who compromise, please stop, repent and don’t do it any more. Compromise will kill you; possibly physically but for sure spiritually. And especially if you operate in the prophetic or in the office of a prophet – you won’t last long and still feel His presence.

Remember this place is not our home; we don’t need the approval of man only our Lord, if you suffer for Christ’s sake - glory to God. We will suffer for doing right, asking people to do right, standing up for righteousness, being rejected and censured…
I Peter 4:14 If you are censured and suffer abuse [because you bear] the name of Christ, blessed [are you-happy, fortunate, to be envied, with life-joy and satisfaction in God’s favor and salvation, regardless of you outward condition], because the Spirit of glory, the Spirit of God, is resting upon you. On their part He is blasphemed, but on your part He is glorified.

We all will stand before the throne of God. How will your life be unfolded before Him?